The only person whose opinion ought to matter to you, is yourself.
Ever heard of the aforementioned concept? You see, there are a lot of put-downers (those who put you down) in the world and not enough put-uppers (those who encourage you). The latter should cease to matter if one has substantial trust in one’s abilities. (By extension however, yourself could also include your people; parents, siblings, etcetera.)
So long as we have a clear idea of what we wish to accomplish in life and how we want to go about things, why should anyone’s opinion of your route/decision/system/process matter? Weird as it may seem, I have always trusted my instincts when it came to decisions. Say it’s the morning of the final exam at university and I can’t find my admit card- Is the gut beginning to panic or just the brain going around asking for possible suggestions, is what I ask myself. And somehow the body parts know which is which and behave accordingly.
Had I really lost the card, the mouth would’ve tried up and the throat choked down. Good signs in order to decide upon the way forward (whether or not to puke/panic/hyperventilate), no?
Anyway, if you know you got to go a certain way, that is indeed your prerogative and yours to mess with as you please, if you’re doing it for the right reasons (as explained by you, to yourself). Psychology says if you know something with a surety (inside of you) and then you try to explain it, you are sure to go wrong.
Malcolm Gladwell explains it very well in his book, Blink, how a top notch archaeologist looked at this dug up statue and knew right away something wasn’t quite right, even after a lot of experts had studied the piece of art and come up with tangible evidence proving its historic beginnings etcetera. Try explaining your misgivings to someone right away though, and that is just the brain trying to shoot arrows in the dark and sure to miss any target. Bottom line: Trust yourself and stand true, especially after you’ve prayed istekhaara!
That Nagging Thought 